Teaching social skills to yourself or your children must first start with understanding the concept of "respect". Without respect, the need for social skills cannot be grasped. What is respect and how it molds the way a person should think and act is explored more fully in the linked page. Etiquette, then, is a means to show respect for others and to gain respect from others.
Once the concept of respect is understood, having respect for others is something more easily achieved. What are the things that you admire or hold in esteem? Are there attributes that you see in others that you seek to develop? Are these "things" material items or something more intangible? When having respect for others,
Respect is freely given, not earned.
In identifying those attributes that we respect, how does one show respect? Is it always an overt physical gesture or something more subtle and meaningful? Showing respect is important to reinforce civilized behavior and a means for better positioning yourself in polite society.
This, then, begs the question of how to get respect. Everyone likes to be recognized for things we do well. But, as the saying goes:
Respect is something that is earned.
We should expect to "earn" the respect of others through our actions and how we treat others. So, although we should give respect freely, we should expect to earn expect. This may seem to be a disconnect, but in the end, we cannot demand to be given respect by others, but we should be open minded enough to accept the views of others.
This, then, serves as the basis for exploring the importance of manners. Having good manners, then, is one means for showing respect for others as well as for earning respect for oneself. The importance of good manners should not be underestimated, as good or poor manners will be noticed and taken into account in business and social settings and will impact how a person is viewed.
Teaching good manners for children, then, is an essential responsibility for any parent so that the full potential of a child can be realized. Children showing good manners are viewed as a pleasure to be around and more likely to be brought into and accepted in social circles and receive more life opportunities. Therefore, teaching social skills is essential for the future success of the child.
Respect for children and showing respect for elders are two instances examined in further detail. One represents the hope for the future, while the other is to understand the lessons of the past and how the things that our elders experienced and did for our benefit impacted our lives.
Teaching social skills is based on understanding "respect" and applying it in our daily lives or helping to demonstrate to others how this way of being will lead to a better world.
Resources for Teaching Social Skills and Respect
Below you will find a selection of books that provide an outline on teaching respect, values, discipline and social skills ranging from the very young up through the teenage years. In addition, there are several books listed that address bullying, really the opposite of respect, and how to deal with it as both a child or an adult. If you do not find exactly what you are looking for, click on the store name to be taken to the book store's website for a deeper search on the title you desire.
Manage your classroom with proven, positive techniques that promote appropriate behavior. Teachers want to be able to teach the content they were trained to teach.
When children act up and out with inappropriate behavior, it is often an indication that their needs of belonging, mastery, independence, and generosity are not being met. Caring adults can help children meet their needs by learning to respond to what can be called pain-based behavior rather than react with more pain. Punishment seldom produces long-term change in behavior. Building Courage and Strength in Youtha€"Part #3: Respectful Discipline explains basic management techniques, as well as an intervention strategy that adults can employ to help guide and empower youth to pathways of respect and responsibility. Among the topics covered: learning objectives, pain-based models of discipline, discipline compared to punishment, managing behavior, the three possible outcomes of a crisis, and an intervention model.
Forty percent of U.S. students voluntarily report being involved in bullying - as bullies or as victims -according to the results of the first national survey on this subject.
It's the deadliest combination going: bullies who terrorize, bullied kids who are afraid to tell, bystanders who watch, and adults who see the incidents as a normal part of childhood. All it takes to understand that this is a recipe for tragedy is a glance at headlines across the country. In this updated edition of The Bully, the Bullied, and the Bystander, which includes a new section on cyberbullying, one of the world's most trusted parenting educators gives parents, caregivers, educators?and most of all, kids?the tools to break the cycle of violence. Drawing on her decades of work with troubled youth, and her wide experience in the areas of conflict resolution and reconciliatory justice, Barbara Coloroso explains: The three kinds of bullying, and the differences between boy and girl bullies Four abilities that protect your child from succumbing to bullying Seven steps to take if your child is a bully How to help the bullied child heal and how to effectively discipline the bully How to evaluate a school's antibullying policy And much more This compassionate and practical guide has become the groundbreaking reference on the subject of bullying.
Buy The Bully in the Book and in the Classroom by C.J. Bott in Paperback for the low price of 35.00. Find this product in Education > Classroom Management.
A variety of well publicised surveys have revealed that bullying in the workplace is an issue endemic within working life in Britian. This book goes beyond the studies to explore all the issues associated with what is becoming a major problem.
This book examines the different streams of thought which have emerged on the problem of bullying and emotional abuse at work. It examines the research that has been done and analyses current practices.
Buy The Complete Guide to Understanding, Controlling, and Stopping Bullies & Bullying at Work by Margaret R. Kohut in Paperback for the low price of 13.82. Find this product in Education > Administration - General.
The first paperback publication of an award-winning study on the need for values in education in American classrooms-from the author of the parenting classic Raising Good Children.
These ready-to-use lessons for grades 3 through 8 have been created to give you engaging, yet powerful, new tools to use in helping your students lay a solid foundation in developing critical life.
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