baptism invitation

by my bf nt gd engh
(b/c we're not married?)

Dear Miss Manners,

I have a friend that asked my to be a god mother to her daughter, we have been friends since high school and maintained a close friendship and I divulge lots of my personal info to her. She knows how close and how I feel about my boyfriend of one year and I can see myself spending my life with him and I am pretty much waiting for him to pop the question. He knows that I will not move in with him even if we are serious unless we are getting married, but since it's only been a year that we've been dating I am not pressuring him as we want to ensure our relationship develops properly. However this year we started signing and give birthday presents together (he asked for that and and I was happy to hear that from him and told my friend about it and she mentioned that it must be getting serious). I have introduced him to my family and he even attended my nephews 1st communion and my friend met him twice and they got along great. So I am now puzzled why she only invites me to her son's birthday and to her daughter's baptism and not my boyfriend. I feel uncomfortable asking because it seems she is consciously excluding him, as I tried to bring up gently how close we are. I really feel sad because he contributed half the money we gave when her daughter was born as a gift. Most recently at her son's birthday since people found out I have a boyfriend they asked why he is not here I said he could not attend (but it's b/c he was not invited). I don't know what to make out of this situation or what is the right thing but I am sad that he is not going to be there and after being alone for so many years (5) I still feel alone because now my boyfriend is not invited. However, if it's only proper that he doesn't not attend that I will bite the bullet this time. My boyfriend will not say it but he is upset and said he does not want to have any more get togethers, and that I can be her friend on my own, so now I have even more issues because he will not go to any casual get togethers at her home, I am the godmother...what do I do? He is very offended. Should she know better? Are we wrong?